Most people make New Year's resolutions and we hardly expect anyone to keep them after February 1st. Thus, I have a bit of angst with the term. Every year after Christmas is over and the decorations have been taken down, I feel a since of newness. The house looks clean and simple. I feel like I have clean slate in terms of my projects list. It feels like a fresh start, new year or not, which forces me to reflect a bit on what I would like work on.
Last year, I told myself that I was going to start saying "no" more. The previous year had left me with a pile of half finished projects and I desperately needed something to keep me on task. I decided I wasn't going to commit to everything others asked me to do. This didn't mean I was going turn everything down, just be a little more realistic about what I'm capable of. I had started making clothing to sell on Etsy, started a bible study that I could hardly make it to with sharing a car with my husband, moved into a new house, and became pregnant with our second. In the end, I quit making clothes and quit the bible study.
After last year's reflection I feel I was pretty successful in my new goal. I didn't start any project I couldn't finish and didn't commit to anything I couldn't follow through on. It feels awesome!
Here are a few things I had to tell myself "no" about just in this month alone!
First of all I will tell you that we will be moving across the country in about 2 1/2 weeks.. For Ethum's 3rd birthday party, next weekend, I wanted to make party hats, sew twenty or so napkins (both of which he would never know the difference, much less care that Mommy had made them herself) and I said I would not start packing until after the party. I said "NO" to all of those things and what a relief to myself! Also, I had planned to stock-up my Etsy shop with new vintage goods but instead I closed my shop until after the move. What is the deal with this self-imposed stress?? I'm so glad that I have found the value of letting myself off the hook. (the photo above is an afghan that will be in my shop this spring.)
This New Year's non-resolution is sort of an extension of last year's. I want to work on being realistic about my time. At the end of the day, I often feel that my to-do list is only half finished. I attribute this to planning far too much in one day. I need to re-evaluate my time and only plan a day's worth of work per day, which will in turn make me feel a lot better about my productivity. The other thing I want to work on is making more plans with friends. I can be pretty terrible about making the initiative. I guess this goal will take on a whole new form since we are moving to a state where I know not a soul. And the last thing is to stop worrying about the house being immaculate anytime we have a visitor- it just isn't realistic.
SO, as you are reflecting and re-evaluating your goals, be realistic.